Ever tried a self-help book? I've read 100s. But to be honest, in the beginning I started to question: Do They Actually Work? Then I discovered something about myself that changed their impact on my life.
I love a self-help book. Believe me – I’ve probably read hundreds in my lifetime. However, when I read self-help books before I started my journey of change, they did not work!
However, re-reading the same books now have accelerated the progress I’ve made in my life, helped me unpack some of my barriers and created a pathway for me to go after my dreams.
So what changed? Why didn’t those same books get the same effect the first-time round?
Self-help books can be a great resource, but they’re not a magic bullet. If you’re feeling discouraged, don’t give up on yourself.
Check out my video below and find out why you may not be seeing the results you want after reading a self-help book and what you need to do to actually make lasting change.
If you’ve tried self-help books and they did not work for you, you are not alone, so don’t give up. There are other ways to get help and make changes in your life. You may want to consider talking to a therapist, or coach.
But in the mean time, check out my quick overview below to see if you can relate.
WHY SELF-HELP BOOKS MAY NOT WORK FOR YOU
Unrealistic expectations – Self-help books often promise quick and easy solutions to complex problems. This can lead to unrealistic expectations and disappointment. For example, a self-help book on weight loss may promise that you can lose 20 pounds in two weeks, but this is not realistic or sustainable.
Lack of accountability – It’s easy to read a self-help book and feel motivated to make changes in your life, but it’s much harder to actually put those changes into practice. Without accountability, it’s easy to fall back into old patterns and habits.
Personal beliefs and experiences – Our personal beliefs and experiences can shape the way we interpret and apply the advice in self-help books. If you have negative beliefs about yourself or your ability to change, it may be difficult to benefit from self-help books. For example, if you believe that you are a failure, you may dismiss any advice in a self-help book that tells you that you can achieve your goals.
Here are some additional reasons why self-help books may not work for you:
You’re not ready to change. If you’re not truly committed to making changes in your life, no self-help book will be able to help you.
You’re expecting a magic bullet. There is no quick and easy fix to any problem. Real change takes time and effort.
You’re not following the advice. It’s not enough to read a self-help book and then put it down. You need to take action and implement the advice you’re learning.
You’re not giving it enough time. It takes time to see results from any self-improvement effort. Don’t get discouraged if you don’t see results immediately.
LET ME KNOW IN THE COMMENTS BELOW IF ANY OF MY REASONS RESONATE WITH YOU.