My 40s came in a blink of an eye! One year in, I panicked! – hence my Midlife Crisis experience. I needed a Quick Guide to Surviving Your 40s. One that didn’t assume as soon as the clock struck on my 40th birthday I would miraculously have all the answers, be in full control of my life and cruising towards my goals.
I wanted real life advice. Nothing difficult or too time consuming. Just something to point me in the right direction. Did I find it? Hell no! I had to spend 3 whole years actually working out what I had to do to fully embrace my 40s and look forward to what the future holds.
The principles I found below have totally changed my life. Enabling me to get out of debt, save money, release 28lbs of weight and so much more!
Whether you’re approaching your 40s or right in the heat of it and still can’t work out what you want – don’t fear. Luckily you don’t have to do all the research and wait as long as me to find the answers. I’ve done all the hard work for you!
Quick Guide to Surviving your 40s
Challenge the negative beliefs you have
Don’t live the next 10 years of your life with the same beliefs and mindset you were living before. Be willing to let go of any disempowering thoughts you have about your past and start to make new emotional connections. By doing this (and I know it’s not easy), your new beliefs that will enable you to create a more positive mindset for your future.
No one is coming to save you
Your life is 100% your responsibility! Whether you want to be happy, wealthy, change your weight or feel worthy – it’s all up to you. Nobody is coming! And that’s the good news! Realising the important role you actually play in your life will change your expectations on yourself and others.
Be strong but still ask for help
You don’t have to pretend you know it all or have your life all sorted. You are now past the need to prove yourself to others. Your 40s are the best age to recoup all your experiences and analyse what you really want – giving you the courage to seek help for anything you are struggling with without feeling like you’re being judged.
Spend your energy wisely
The way you spend your time has such an impact on both your emotional state and how you see the world. So, make sure that spend your time on things that really matter to you and bring you joy. We are all different, so what you chose will be different to everybody else. However, it is important to pay attention to the people, places and environment you find yourself – as this leads to influencing your emotional state
Pay yourself first
Basically, the pay yourself philosophy is: before you pay your bills, do your weekly food shop, or spend money on anything else – take a portion of your income and save it. Then, with the money that remains, pay your living necessities and allocate money to pay off your debts. There are varying percentages the experts say you should pay yourself each month, but do what suits you.
Create new goals
Your 40s is a great time to re-evaluate the direction you want to go in and set a new course for your life. Imagine all the things that could you could do in the next 10 years that will be of benefit to you, your family or even the wider community. Most importantly, the person you become when working towards those goals will give you motivation to strive to even bigger goals. If you have nowhere to go, you will stay where you are!
Align your habits with your vision
Your habits are the sum total of what your life is today, because we are what we repeatedly do. Being 40 gives you a great period of time to shed the old you, create a new vision for your life and consciously change your habits. The best way to do this is to start with a small step but make it a big priority.
Don’t just take my word for it – here’s a few quotes from the experts:
You never know how you will feel when you enter a new phase in your life. I hope my Quick Guide to Your 40s gives you a few tips to get prepared.
This is a marvellous time in your journey. You’ve got all the experience of you 20s and 30s and the space to create the life you want to live for the next 45+ years on this earth.
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