Putting yourself first can be a challenging task, especially if you're used to prioritising the needs of others over your own. But there is a way to put yourself first without feeling guilty and live a more fulfilled life.
Putting yourself first is not about being selfish or inconsiderate. It’s about taking care of yourself so that you can be the best version of yourself for yourself and for others. But sometimes the thought of this may make us feel guilty as we assume other people will ‘call us out’ as not being available to them.
Often, the guilt we feel when putting ourselves first stems from ingrained beliefs that we’re not worthy of care and attention. We may have internalised messages that suggest taking time for ourselves is indulgent.
It’s crucial to challenge these assumptions and recognise that our own well-being is just as important as that of others. We deserve to be happy, healthy, and fulfilled.
In my video below, I share how putting yourself first can be done without feeling guilty.
The Journey to Putting Yourself First Without Guilt
Understanding our own needs. Take some time to reflect on what makes you feel happy, fulfilled, and energised.
Establishing healthy boundaries is essential for putting ourselves first. This involves learning to say no to requests that you don’t have the time or capacity for.
Communicating your needs to others and asserting your right to take care of yourself. Remember, you are not responsible for meeting the needs of everyone around you.
Practice self-compassion and remind yourself that you are not doing anything wrong. You are worthy of taking care of yourself, and you should not feel guilty about prioritising your own well-being.
Start by making small changes that you can easily integrate into your routine.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Delegating tasks can free up your time so you can focus on your own needs.
Say no to guilt trips:
Don’t let others guilt you into feeling bad about putting yourself first. Remember, you have a right to take care of your own needs.
Celebrate your successes:
Take the time to acknowledge and celebrate your accomplishments. This will help you stay motivated and on track.
Remember, you are worthy of love, care, and attention. So don’t be afraid to put your needs first.
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